Chapter 2 – Stop Trying to Earn Their Attention

Love was never meant to be begged for. When someone truly wants you, they make space for you— even in their busiest days. You shouldn’t have to fight for the same atten tion that once came naturally. Stop shrinking yourself to fit into someone’s fading interest. The right love doesn’t make you feel like an option. There’s a certain kind of exhaustion that comes from loving someone who no longer looks your way. You start performing love instead of simply being in it— overthinking your words, softening your truths, and waiting for a reply that takes longer each time. You start shrinking yourself, molding your heart to fit into their silences, hoping they’ll notice the effort, the patience, and the ache behind every message you still send. But love should never feel like a performance. You shouldn’t have to earn what should come naturally— attention, care, and presence. The right person will never make you beg for the bare minimum. When someone truly wants to be in your life, they show it— not through grand gestures, but through consistency, through the little things that say, “I see you; I choose you; I care.” And when that energy fades, when the conversations turn one sided and your heart begins to chase what used to come freely, it’s time to stop running. Because love doesn’t grow in places where you have to keep proving your worth.