SACRIFICED FOR WHAT?

Since the day we were born, we’re usually being taught to sacrifice. But sacrifice for whom? Sacrifice for what?

If we discuss about our daily routine, people say a widow sacrifices her martial aspects (Sindoor, Bangles, etc,) but is it true? I don’t think so. Because if you ever ask a woman to sacrifice her husband, will she? No! In matter of a widow, it is snatched away from her for which it makes her to give up what she had. Its not sacrificing but accepting what it is. We say a woman sacrifices her comfort to adjust in her in laws. But women in this generation often gets more luxurious life after marriage. They have become smarter and braver. Then where are we sacrificing? Who is sacrificing?

God himself says you should fight for your things and on the other hand he also says sacrifice for goodness sake. Then how can we understand when to fight and when to sacrifice? How to know the proper balance between fighting and sacrificing? Can we do both simultaneously at one moment?

While I was drowned with those questions and wandering about the answers, I saw a lady with her innocent eyes sparkling with dreams and hopes engulfed with tears of fear of losing it. Standing strong as a mountain not letting her tears to fall down. Her face resembled like a canvas painted with untold stories tinted in hidden marks. Her lips becoming thin and curved swallowing back all the sorrows. Eyes down looking to the floor carrying a sheet of paper scrambled with devastation.

When a voice came “You can’t be an air hostess. Please understand. You can go for any other things. I hope you understand what and why I’m saying thi-” she interrupted with her trembling voice, saying “NO! It’s totally fine. You don’t even need to explain. I’ll find another way soon,” said with a humble smile.

“why didn’t you fought for what your dreams?” I asked her. When she replied “My dreams? my only dream is to make my family happy. And I guess that’s what I did. A human is always bound of wishes which changes on the other day but the only wish that remains constant is to see the smile on our loved one’s face.”

I asked her with a pale face “So that means I will also have to sacrifice for the things I want right now?” She replied with a small laugh “Not until you’ve me as a pillar by your side. We both are young now, But when you’ll be at an age of deciding your future, I’ll be at an age of making your future. The things I couldn’t, you definitely will.”

“Pakka promise?”

“Haha! yes. Pakka promise.”

Now it has been many years to this. That head-dropping beautiful young lady was my elder sister. She’s doing well in her life now being independent and keeping her promise. She supporting me in every stair I want to climb. If I tremble to climb on a stair she becomes an escalator helping me to reach the top.

That day still remains in my mind till now. I got my answer to this. She fought with her inner soul to sacrifice her dreams? or she fought with her instincts to sacrifice her wish? NO! She sacrificed her dreams to fight for mine.

She sacrificed. She fought. She kept her promise. So yes people can sacrifice and fight at the same moment. But they are not called the warriors, they are called the elder sisters!